Learning the ART OF LIVING

Short story of happiness at no cost

It was around 1.30 pm. I was travelling to office from client location in a local train.
Was standing near the door,I saw an middle aged eunuch begging money from passengers(Quite common in Mumbai).

Hardly saw anyone giving her money.

After begging from all the passengers , she came near the door as she want wanted to go to other compartment at next station.She looked hungry.I thought may be she was begging for having food.

I looked at her and asked her "aapka khana hua?"(You had food??)

For some moment she was surprised and then replied "nahi.kyu?"(No.why?)

Me - "Mere pass tiffin hai. khaogay kya?? me dusra kuch khalunga badme "
( I have tiffin. will you eat ?? I will eat something else later).

She(with a broad smile and spark on her face) - Nhi beta. tum kha lo. Me khalungi badme.(No son, You eat your tiffin .I will have my lunch later).

Now Train was about to reach next station.

I was finding my wallet in my bag to give her money.

She said - Nhi beta,kuch nhi chaiye aapse .God bless you. You are very nice(pulled my cheek) ,smiled and got down at station.

Her smile and compliment was surely the moment of happiness for me:)

Purpose of the story .............

First sight love-It still happens

Waiting for  train to reach office for an early morning  review.
while I was constantly looking for train to arrive, saw a beautiful girl just stepping down from bridge to platform.
Eyes were following her,brain was freazed.
I asked to myself "How can she travel in local train??"
"Was she the most beautiful I have seen in my life??"


"Yessssssssss " was the loud answer from all the senses..


Now the train arrived but I wanted to see that face for some more time.


Both got into train...but my mind was still there..I stood near the door and whenever train halted at any station ..I was looking at her compartment just to check where she gets down.(just out of curiosity)nothing else.




Whole day I was just thinking about her ...and finally before going to bed I decided to see her again that means I have to wake up 2 hours early


Nxt morning I rushed to station..nervous and excited..


and stood at the place where I can get into that  compartment of train which is next to hers..as she used to travel in ladies compartment and we are not allowed to go there:(




It was around 8am and train was going to arrive in 2 mins..Thoughts of not seeing that face again was running in my mind just few seconds before train arrived,I saw her running down the steps to catch the train.


I wanted to see her everyday now...so everyday I used to wait for her at platform..i was mad I guess.


This continued for couple of weeks.This was routine..


"My day started waking up early to get her one glimpse and ended up hoping to get her glimpse  next day"


Couple of weeks later, one day it has been over 15 mins but train didn't arrive .Both were at the platform waiting for train.

 "hey do you have any idea why trains are running late today..did you hear any announcement when it will arrive"?? she asked me

This was my expression ,reaction and answer to her.To my rescue ,train arrived.

From the next day, we started smiling every time we look at each other.(atleast once in a day.)

I Knew I am in next stage now..

"My day started waking up early to see her smiling face and ended up hoping to see her smile  next day"

This smile thing was routine for one week now.

After that for two days due to some other important work I couldnt go early.

I missed her smile badly.

Third day when I reached platform, she was already there.We smiled as usual.

She asked in sign language ."what happened??You didn't come yesterday??"

It took a while for me to understand.I looked back just to confirm that the question was for me.

My answer again was the same thing

 
But this time she was confused.
May be she thought I was dumb.


I was worried about what she might think about me because of weird expression.


Next day she planned something I never dreamed it would happen.


as usual I was at platform waiting for her to come.
after 15mins ,I thought she was late today
It was over an  hour waiting but she didn't arrive.
I thought may be because of my stupid reaction she might have got pissed and caught some other train or from other compartment.




bUT why I don't know I still wanted to wait as I had some feeling that she would come.


It was over 2 hours now and I had to leave for office .
I Started thinking may be I should have done that ,done this but now I wont e able to see her again.Totally sad I was..cursing my introvertness.
Train arrived and  I looked around one last time and started walking towards train.


there was a hand on my shoulder from behind ...I looked behind and Voilaa




It was HER.........I was stunned and I could literally hear my hearbeats..I was scared.but my expressions again were

But this time  She smiled and  hugged.




That was moments of heaven for me on earth...




She then placed a white paper in my hand and started walking.


I opened it to find her name and number and had wriiten


"Because of you,i am late and I am not going to office today,You owe me a coffee now":)


I really couldn't  absorb so many things happeningaround. I had to pinch myself to feel it was just real and happening.






Later I msged her and we had coffee and I shared all these stupid things and now after one month, I can say


"My day starts waking up early to meet her, talk to her  and ends hoping to meet her next day"


and it same from her side too..






Later I came to know that She was just standing there in opposite platform from 8am to just check me what I do and she was so so impressed...hahahahhaahah


Present day , I would describe my  story as

Life is strange………Destiny decides everything and happy with it.


when we met, she told a fact that after initial few days she realised that I was there only for her as she saw my company id card once and she asked about the office timings from one of her friends working there.

Scariest DAys

This incident happened with me some few months ago.

I love to read and listen to true ghost and paranormal happenings but never thought I would be writing one.

I was in my village i.e udupi(small town in Karnataka).
After having a small afternoon nap ,i went to our terrace to relax for some time. When I walked into our terrace, I saw a women dressed in sarree with a small kid on her lap sitting on an old wooden chair(which we don't use).

I just looked at them and smiled, but they didn't.
They were behaving as if i wasnt visible for them.
I was shirtless so I thought may be because of that women might be feeling uncomfortable and not looking at me.
I went down to wear shirt and then asked my aunt "who are they??I haven't seen them before at our place.

She said who!!!!..i have been here for last 2 3 hours and noone has come to our house.You might have dreamt about something.

I was totally shocked.Without wasting a second,i ran to terrace again with my mobile phone.( as it was day time I had guts to do that)

and
now there was no one there.
I have seen in some movies that you can see ghosts with camera.
Immediately I took my camera and tried to capture that place and you wont believe I could see them for a fraction of second but as soon as I clicked nothing was there.
(I quickly ran downstairs and told this to everyone.Nobody believed though and suggested to have proper sleep.)

For few days even going to toilet at night was more difficult than going to moon.:)

Untill that day,I really believed there are nothing such as life after death and ghosts and all
 but now I can say they are there somewhere between us may be we cant see them .

Coming to the other point who were they,
After few days, I narrated the incident to my other aunt who stays there and she said that some 2 3 years ago besides our house there used to be another house where one family lived.
Husband was drunkard and used to torture his wife everyday.One day she commited suicide by setting herself and her child on fire.
later her husband sold that house and now some other people stay.

Also
Some 2 days before that tragedy, we borrowed their wooden chair for some purpose and  we couldn't give that back.
Now the chair which I told initially on which that women was sitting is the same old chair borrowed from them.

After that incident I hardly went to terrace and I never leaned near the edges.After a week I returned to Mumbai and now I don't live in fear anymore.

Last thing to mention : They want to throw/destroy that chair but they are in fear whether ghost would trouble them later.
They will soon find a way out.

Be Gentle and Be A Man

Many people come across this situations and its not so tough dealing with this.


What if someone says they dont love you anymore?????

Say " It's ok, no problem!" 

Walk away from her life without making a fuss or any hatred for her. After all when heart breaks it makes no sound.

Hate shouldn't be the outcome of love. But, you loved her and you must be feeling devastated. 

Hmmm.. Take an isolated corner and sit down with a pen and diary. Start writing about how you are feeling right now. Write about all the things that are on your mind related to her. Put all the thoughts on paper. 

Don't stop, just keep writing and writing. You must have many things to write. She didn't said those words that she don't love you anymore all of a sudden.

She must be giving non verbal clues, may be you were too much in love with her to notice that. Or, maybe you didn't wanted to believe those writing on the walls.


When you wake up, just read all what you wrote. You will learn many things. Introspect and you will find the reason why she stopped loving you! Don't feel that she is bad. Don't think you're bad just because she don't love you. Life is all about experiences. It's a hell of experience which will help you be a better and stronger person in future.

Make a to-do list of your weaknesses and work upon them. Engage yourself in meaningful activities. Stay away from your girlfriend online/ offline and someday when you overcome your heartbreak let them know about the lessons you learned and how it felt. 

Relationship is dead without love. So, no point in dragging something which is dead. If something is going to happen, it will happen. 

Enjoy life. Learn Empathy. You know how it feels to be ignored, humiliated, hurt and rejected. Never do that to anyone ever.

Get up and fight your own thoughts. After 5 years you both might be laughing over what she did and what you did?

 Life is beautiful! Failure doesn't makes one a loser.

Learn your lessons, never get overly attached to someone. Never let anyone else take charge of your happiness.

I would also like to add that never indulge in "jealousy" tactics, like putting up pictures of yourself or trying to show what a fun time you are having or how many people have been asking you out (even though a lot people  do). 

It will be difficult to not fall for these petty games, but  make sure moving on was about you and yourself. If you still care enough to make her  jealous or if you still care about what she thinks of you, then you are subconsciously not over her. 

Besides, if she couldn't appreciate you when you were together, she'll never regret "losing you". So really, just move on.

It is great fun being single and non answerable to anyone.

Melt your heart for someone more deserving  next time and i am sure u will find soon.

Just Remember

RELATIONSHIP WITH AN INTROVERT

Just read this post and found it so TRUE and awesome because being an INTROVERT, I can relate everything written to myself!!

This is how INTROVERTS are in a relationship

1.       He loves unconditionally. He doesn't care about more than 2-3 people in his life.  His world revolves around those some  people. He will care for them fiercely, do anything to keep them happy.

2.      He doesn't need approval for all he does from the whole world on Facebook. Those some people approving his actions/purchases/choices/decisions is enough. No show-off.

3.      He is generally misjudged by her friends, since he doesn't really talk in front of them.

4.      He's very patient. He never puts her down. He's great when teaching her something she don't know.

5.      He can text her ALL DAY LONG but gets cold feet when asked for a phone-call.

6.      He's hopeless at expressing his feelings. Texts are okay. Doing so over phone is no less than punishment for him.

7.      He's mostly happy in his bubble. He doesn't need to talk all day long or anything. He's happy having his own time.

8.      He never texts when he knows she is out with other people. He lets her have "her time".

9.       He's not going to cheat. He doesn't even look at any other girl anymore.

10.   He hates confrontations, or fights, or "talking it out". He'd rather just forget about it or postpone the talk indefinitely.

11.    He hates group activities such as dancing and singing. He hates being watched.

12.   He loves or hates fiercely. There's no "in-between" zone or frenemies for him. He either likes you or doesn't.

13.   He's not fine with PDA.

14.   He walks on the side of the road where there is traffic. It's so nice when someone is being protective without being over-protective.

15.   He doesn't get jealous that easily. Or maybe like every other emotion he doesn't really express it.

16.   He smiles often. He's a sweet person. But once in a while, he laughs. He throws his head back and laughs like a little kid.

17.   Since he's not that expressive, when he does finally say something sweet it feels very special.

 The amount of care, energy and thought he puts into the relationship is unparalleled.